I have a confession. I have been losing time. As I mentioned in the last blog entry, I started a business. The idea was that I would come home from work, play with the family, eat, read books with the kids, and help get the kids in bed. Next I would use the time I formally used to study for my MDiv to work on my business. School assignments have a distinct beginning and end. Running a business never ends. There are always more things to do. I found my mind racing at all hours of the night. I would finally get to sleep but then sleep late. I would miss mornings reading the Bible with my boy. I would be distracted during the day when I should have been fully focused on being with my family. I have been losing time.
While we cannot go back in time, we can change behavioral patterns. We have the choice to say no to good things to make room for the best things. I am still committed to getting this business off the ground. However, I am creating stronger boundaries so that I do not miss out on time with my family. Here are the steps I am taking to make healthier decisions.
- Delete Facebook and Twitter off of my iPhone (at least, for a few weeks)
- Establish more reasonable business goals for each week
- Remember that unachieved goals do not cause the earth to explode
- Establish consistent work hours during the week
It's funny that changing behavioral patterns requires simple goals. It isn't rocket science. But is also requires discipline. It requires letting one's desire to have it all together. It requires the awareness of one's limitations.
Interestingly enough, there are many studies out there that suggest that taking care of emotional, physical, and relational health can actual lead to more productivity. Success and health are not mutually exclusive. In his book, Becoming a Coaching Leader, Daniel Harkavy shares tons of stories of people becoming very successful while living a life of balance. He also offers many tools to help people create a healthy life trajectory. Read it today.
Do yourself and those around you a favor. Slow down. Don't take yourself so seriously. Drink a cup of coffee slowly. Breathe deeply. Embrace your loved ones more often. Laugh more. And ultimately, don't lose any more time.